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And Avoid the Frenzy and Nightmare
If you find that when your son or daughter enters teenage years your relationship with them starts to change do not be concerned. This is a new phase of their life. As a child, they may have been willing to follow your ways, your standards and your beliefs.
However now they are entering a stage of life where they will decide on and define their own beliefs, standards and ways. Some of their decisions may conflict with your perspectives, but do not be concerned. If you trained them well as a child your influence in their lives will always be there to guide them.
With the help of some young friends, I have put together a series of tips designed to help you maintain a successful relationship with your teen during these restless years and on into their adulthood.
Teenage Years, Fun or Frenzy?
We started with looking at:
Eight things you can DO to help build and maintain the relationship between you as a parent and your teen.
One of these 8 tips was:
Do discuss issues with your teen. Now I am not talking about a heated discussion, but a good discussion over a cup of coffee or an ice cream. You may of course carefully point out the consequences of the issue in question, but the final decision will be theirs. Don’t ever try to control that.
What if they make the wrong decision? This is where unconditional love comes into the picture. You will always be there to support and love no matter what happens.
Now this does not mean you have to “bail them out”. No, let them pay the consequences (this is how they will learn), but always be there to support.
Dining together as a family was another tip that my friends thought to be important. The family dinner table can be a great place to share and strengthen family bonds.
You can find more about the first 4 tips (listed below), by clicking here.
- Do discuss.
- Do point out the consequences.
- Do allow choices.
- Do dine together as a family
(Click on the link above or here to read more).
More about the second 4 tips (listed below) can be found here:
- Do trust them (this is very important)
- Do restrain (with wisdom)
- Do involve them in the family activities (they have not left home yet)
- Do continue to believe the best (this is also VERY important.
Click on the link above or here to read more.)
Teenage Years – Parents Adventure or Nightmare?
This depends greatly on your relationship with your teenager.
Here is a list of things to avoid doing in order to maintain a successful relationship with your teen.
You can click on the links to read the complete post about the respective topic.
Don’t Threaten Your Teenager
Don’t Punish Us, My Teenage Friends Say
Don’t Antagonize Your Teenager
Here I take a look at three definitions of the word “antagonize, and apply them to your relationship with your teen.
Don’t Ignore Your Teenager
(This can be a major temptation when things get difficult.)
Don’t Give Up On Your Teenager
I trust these tips will help you with your relationship with your teen. I look forward to hearing about your experiences and recommendations that will help to build a successful relationship with our teenagers.
May All Your Relationships be Successful!
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