Hi, its great to see you here again!
Today I have invited a very special guest. Barbara Desmarais is a parenting and life coach who uses and applies the Law of Attraction to both her personal life and her coaching. Barb is the owner of http://www.theparentingcoach.com.
Barbara Desmarais writes:
Over the years I’ve coached many parents both privately and in groups. I’ve come across so many who are in regular conflict with their partner. They frequently argue about how to discipline the children or they are carrying around resentments and hurts towards each other.
Parents Set The Tone of the Household.
Just like a leader in an organization the parents set the tone of the household. Even if they aren’t openly arguing if they’re at odds with each other, the tension between them is felt by everyone.
If they are openly arguing and doing it in a hostile way, the kids are affected. They’re affected in a way that impacts who they are.
My Experience
I’ve been married for twenty-three years next month and I would be lying if I said it’s been clear sailing since the beginning. It hasn’t. We’ve had lots of struggles but I made a conscious decision many years ago that I was not going to put our kids through a divorce. I would not stay in an unsatisfactory marriage for the sake of the kids but the kids gave us a reason to make our relationship work.
When things were clearly off kilter we sought professional help. We saw a counselor both together and privately. I learned some important things about myself in the process and one of them was that the only person I could change was me. I took that advice to heart and put a lot of energy into finding out who I really was and what made me happy.
The happier I became, the less the little things bothered me and the more I worked on myself, the stronger my boundaries became. I reacted to situations differently.
The Law of Attraction Works In the Home
For many years I’ve been studying the Law of Attraction and recently I’ve been applying techniques that I know bring more emotional and spiritual wealth into my life. I’ve made a conscious decision to focus only on those qualities in my husband that I admire and respect. I regularly write down the many things I’m grateful for including a happy, stable marriage.
The more I focus on my husband’s good qualities, the more desirable he becomes.
One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is parents is to love and respect each other. When there is unity between the parents, the vibrations in the household are positive and everyone benefits.
It doesn’t mean that disagreements are a bad thing or that arguing should never be tolerated. Disagreements are a normal part of any relationship but when the union is strong, tension is kept to a minimum and arguments are quickly resolved.
May All Your Relationships be Successful!
You can follow Barbara on twitter, where she is known as Coach Barb.
I would greatly appreciate hearing about your experiences too – please share them below.
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June 13th, 2009 at 2:20 am
The article is usefull for me. I’ll be coming back to your blog.