Your thoughts affect those around you. How?
Here’s the progression:
- Our thoughts create mindsets
- Mindsets create attitudes
- Attitudes create actions.
- Actions stimulate reactions and responses!
So how you affect those around you, whether it be family or friends, all starts with your thoughts!
Stop and think for a moment about this scenario:
Mm maybe this title is a little bit extreme, but if you are reading this article then I got your attention 
One thing is for sure, if our relationships with our work associates are pleasant, then our time at work is more pleasant and enjoyable. Let’s face it, many of us spend 30-40 hours and more a week at work.
How quickly that time can fly by when you can enjoy your work and have fun with your associates. But when there is tension, gossip, bickering and other negative attitudes surrounding you that can be another story.
By now you may be saying, yea I know it is much nicer to work with good relationships on the job but you just don’t know my boss, or if you could just see coworker “Joe Bloe” in action!
One of the most valuable relationship ties we can have in life are the bonds between family members. However these relationships are seriously under attack today.
A community is made up of family units and therefore is as strong or as weak as the families that make up the community. When we come to realize and face this truth, it can be both scary and challenging to us all.
How many times I have heard this across the years as I talked with friends, families and folk seeking counsel and prayer.
Most of them were unaware that they were holding grudges and here’s why. This is a true story:
There are several young folk (well they have grown a bit over the past years who look to me as a spiritual mother. I met them all when they were in their teens, and most come from a very broken or difficult home background.
This is a quick note to let you know that I have been doing some “extreme makeovers” on my blog network, to make your visits much more challenging, inspiring and helpful.
Starting from next week you will find a greater selection of categories and some new articles that will help you to find success with your relationships. During this preparation and upgrading process, I am busy sharing some of the principles that I will be writing about here with a young lad at work. He told me today “you need to write some of these things on your blog”. I assured him I will be.
The definition of the word “respect” is somewhat complex. It includes admiration as well as the taking into consideration of another person’s wishes or to use the dictionary’s actual words: “a courteous regard for people’s feelings”. It can also include obedience, when referring to child/parent relationships.
When we respect someone, we can look up to them and/or we can do something that may not be a normal choice for us, but we know that the other person would prefer it.
If we cannot trust another person, then there is really no relationship. When considering the definition of trust, I find it difficult to separate unselfishness from trust. What do you think? Think about the following comments.
A person who openly displays characteristics of selfishness is not someone whom you will readily trust. You will know that in moments of stress or life crisis, you could never count on them to help or support you. They will be too busy thinking about themselves.
We need to come to grips with the reality that no one is perfect. Sooner or later, everyone around us will fail us in some way.
At least they will not always live up to our expectations of them, because our expectations will probably be above what they are really capable of doing at times.
The question is, how are you going to react when they fail? You need to ask yourself honestly …
Have you meet people who will tell you this? “We have a perfect relationship, we never have any reason to have to forgive”, or something similiar. I know I have.
Do you believe them? That’s a good question! I am not sure I do. No human being is perfect. We all make mistakes at some time or another. In a tense moment we are all capable of doing and saying things we may regret later.
So my conclusion is, we ALL need to learn to forgive because there WILL be a time (or times) in our lives when we need to exercise this grace no matter how perfect the relationship.
No matter how good a relationship may be, there will always be times when it will be neccesary to forgive. No human being is perfect, and one of the major things that destroys relationships is unforgiveness.
We need to understand that the real issue is not what happened to us, or what the person or group of people did to us, but rather what we did with the situation. Did the situation make us bitter or better?
