Hi, its great to see you here again!
Written by guest writer, Dr Taffy (moneyinmarriage on twitter)
The economy has had an effect on marriages and relationships that many probably did not expect. For example, couples that were headed to divorce court ended up staying together because they could not afford the cost of a divorce.
One thing is for sure, if they were not discussing money before they are now. Couples that had not talked about finances are now in the position of having to talk about money because of the effect the economy on their personal finances.
If you are in one of these positions, it is a good thing that you are now talking about money. Whether you really thought about it or not, money has many roles in our lives.
- It provides income.
- It allows us to purchase groceries.
- It enables us to put gas in the car.
- It enables us to pay bills and many other things.
Yet so many people have been in their marriages without discussing money. Therefore, when times get difficult and finances are less, stress sets in and so does blame.
In order for your relationship to be successful day in and day out, you both as a couple must agree to discuss finances without pointing blame.
Let me share a secret with you, I bet that neither of you (husband or wife) was taught how to manage money and so you dealt with it based on what you saw while you were growing up and so you learned on your own. That means you basically managed your money by trial and error.
I applaud you for reading this because now you are in a position to start over and make better decisions. Let me share with you two steps that can lead you in the right direction.
- First and foremost, forgive yourself for any financial choices you made that have caused financial stress.
- Second forgive each other and agree to move forward together.
Dr Taffy has prepared an excellent course about managing finances in marriage which is available on 5 CDs. It comes with a downloadable instruction guide and another downloadable guide to credit and budgeting.
This course will greatly empower your marriage and family relationships as you study and plan together to improve your financial stability. The results of right relationship to money also include a brighter future and less or no arguments because of finances.
May All Your Relationships be Successful!
May 30th, 2009 at 8:31 pm
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June 15th, 2009 at 8:17 am
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September 1st, 2009 at 9:57 pm
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