How many times I have heard this across the years as I talked with friends, families and folk seeking counsel and prayer.
Most of them were unaware that they were holding grudges and here’s why. This is a true story:
There are several young folk (well they have grown a bit over the past years 
who look to me as a spiritual mother. I met them all when they were in their teens, and most come from a very broken or difficult home background.
Have you meet people who will tell you this? “We have a perfect relationship, we never have any reason to have to forgive”, or something similiar. I know I have.
Do you believe them? That’s a good question! I am not sure I do. No human being is perfect. We all make mistakes at some time or another. In a tense moment we are all capable of doing and saying things we may regret later.
So my conclusion is, we ALL need to learn to forgive because there WILL be a time (or times) in our lives when we need to exercise this grace no matter how perfect the relationship.
No matter how good a relationship may be, there will always be times when it will be neccesary to forgive. No human being is perfect, and one of the major things that destroys relationships is unforgiveness.
We need to understand that the real issue is not what happened to us, or what the person or group of people did to us, but rather what we did with the situation. Did the situation make us bitter or better?
